CONTENTS
What the Fu*k
Breath Techniques
Daily Sessions
- Intention
- Gratitude
- Integrity
- Regret
- Responsibility
- Calm
- Forgiveness
- Connection
- Desire
- Courage
- Creation
- Balance
- Mindful
- Ease
- Release
- Empathy
- Trust
- Pain
- Vision
- Healthy
- Patience
- Jealousy
- Centered
- Guidance
- Childhood
- Spirit
- Truth
- Connection
- Harmony
- Prosperity
- Love
- Abundance
Closing Remarks
References
Acknowledgements
What the Fu*k
Life… what an F-ing cluster it has turned into. A serious clown show was exacerbated by the events of 2020! I thought the planet was out of whack prior to Coronageddon, but wow I had no idea this could even happen. Probably a good idea you grabbed this book, if you didn’t need it before, you sure as hell need it now. Welcome to Affirmations to UnFu*k Your Mind. This book focuses on 30 key word and how they can change your thought patterns and foster a better outlook on life. You can take this as a 30-day challenge or cruise through at your own pace. But first you should probably know something about the person delivering these nuggets of wisdom to you.
Some people believe you pick your parents, and if that is true I clearly see why I chose mine. I was blessed to be born and raised in Southern California. My childhood had the typical drama within my friendships but nothing serious and only a few 2nd degree “me too” moments that left me only slightly damaged. Overall, I had no real complaints by the time I was to graduate high school. Well, there was one, my health. I was always getting sick. I would suffer from head colds and chest infections for weeks, recover for a week or so and then become sick all over again. This would start in the fall and continue its horrible cycle through Spring.
One late night, while watching local cable tv, I was feeling desperate, at my wits end, so sick of being sick. An infomercial of sorts, a low-quality production for a local acupuncture doctor came on and I was mesmerized. I had never been fond of needles and so had turned down the thought of this as a possible remedy for my ailments. In fact, a year prior I had told a coworker who was touting the personal relief he had from such treatments, that you could not pay me to have someone stick me with needles. But here I was watching one testimony after another, all speaking directly to my suffering. It was a sign and I heard and saw it with an openness that was unexplainable.
I called for an appointment the next day. I was fortunate to have insurance which covered my 3 visits per week. It was unlike anything I could have imagined. My asthma disappeared, scar tissue from old injuries dissolved, my acne faded, and my energy strengthened. More importantly I began to learn valuable principles of the mind-body connection that began my path to inner health and mental wellness. Many of which I will share with you. The first is, do not put plastic in the microwave, no matter what it says do not do it! Seriously, this was one of his top rules I was given.
Thanks to a breakthrough I had with him regarding my parent’s divorce, I made a commitment to my angsty teenage self to only spend no more than 5% of my time wallowing in my own self-pitty. I realized then that it was acceptable to have feelings of pain and sadness, but that it was not getting me anywhere to focus on them. I had a similar discovery during one bout of illness, where I lay in bed telling myself how sick I was and ended up in hospital receiving a breathing treatment. That too was unacceptable behavior if I was to enjoy my life and so I didn’t repeat that horrible series of thoughts ever again.
From then on, I constantly focused on the bright side. I became a rather positive person in all aspect of my life. Quickly, my life seemed to flow along like a movie where everything I wanted fell into place. I was doing great in college and having the time of my life. I even achieved a goal I set for myself when I was just 14, I earned a full scholarship to travel abroad and finish my last year of undergraduate studies in New Zealand! Oh, the stories I could tell from that adventure. I will save those for my next book!
Fast forward to July of 2000, I returned to my home-town in southern California after spending a year and a half in New Zealand. I began practicing yoga that fall and truly fell in love with the philosophy, not just the physical postures. Several years later I read the Secret by Rhonda Bryne and then found Esther and Abraham Hicks. I was quickly hooked on the Law of Attraction, then my life really started to change. My partner and I manifested success in our business and personal lives with such speed it seemed like nothing could stop us. Well, except the young, thin blond who came between us derailed all we had manifested, and I found myself homeless, jobless, and almost hopeless. But I never lost sight of the teachings I had been blessed with and again set to building my life back up from the bottom. I got pregnant 5 months after the break-up and 2 months after being told I could not have a baby and should have a hysterectomy! That experience again transformed my life.
Five years later I was escaping the toxic relationship that was suffocating my soul and robbing my son of a proper childhood. I was again homeless, jobless and with only the love money of my dearest friends and family, boarded a plane for Hawaii with my son to start fresh. We arrived with nowhere to stay, $1000 in my bank account and two job offers that I had received via email. The struggle was real and so was the magic that unfolded once again in my life. The more I released the more I received. Things I envisioned came forth effortlessly.
I started to draft this story after just more than a year of my move with more money in the bank than I have had in the past 10 years! I just got a new job that I love and after 2 months already received a raise. My son has been consistently healthy, kind, and fearless thanks to the support of my new coworkers, love interests and friends who treat us like gold! I am going to share with you the thoughts and feelings I used to manifest this unreal transformation though out this book!
MEDITATION PREP
Your whole life has been a series of responses to the stimulus around you. Things happen and you react. Depending on the consequence you will repeat that action or try something different to get a more favorable outcome. This is basic behavior analysis and the subject in which I earned my Master of Science degree. We have been programmed by our environment to respond to all that is going on around us in ways that deliver our preferred consequences. Unfortunately, we are not always aware of what is at play and we can develop negative coping strategies that can really stunt our potential for achieving success and happiness. Today we will begin with a focus on ourselves as a way to introduce meditation and open the door for future lessons to have a greater impact.
I want you to take the next few minutes for yourself without distraction. I know it is asking a lot to put that phone one airplane mode, but please do it! You can set yourself an alarm for 15 minutes from now just in case you happen to doze into a deep relaxation and need to be somewhere after this is complete. Once you have prepared your space, prepare yourself. Get a drink of water, put one by you if you get thirsty frequently. Go to the bathroom and do whatever else needs to be done so you can sit without distraction for these next few minutes.
You have free access to this chapter online in our facebook group if you prefer to listen instead of read and then practice. So if you want, log on to Now I want you to decide how you want to experience this. Do you want to be lying down, sitting up maybe even standing? It really is a matter of preference and there is no right answer. I love listening to my meditations lying on my back with a pillow under my knees. Other times I enjoy standing and feeling into the periphery of my limbs with each breath. If you have a difficult time sitting still, I highly recommend laying down. If you want to sit you can be in a chair, cross-legged on the floor or in any other position that feels good to you. Get settled.
Now we start to focus on our breath. Just begin by paying attention to it. Hear it. Feel it. Savor it! This is your life force. It is your lifeline. Feel your chest rise and expand as you inhale. Now feel the air escape and notice the shape your body takes. Stay focused on your breath – feel the air as you inhale through your nose let it fill your lungs and allow your chest expand outward to the sides.
Breath Techniques
Meditation has a certain stigma that keeps many from actively bringing it into their daily lives. But the fact is almost everyone meditates, and they don’t even know it’s happening. What’s your favorite hobby, sport or thing to do? How do you feel when you get deep into it? Do you feel peace, joy, calm, energized, or powerful? Do you lose track of time and feel rejuvenated when you finish? When we make a connection with the being we truly are and have always been we take a step closer to fulfilling our purpose here in these physical bodies. We are all made of spiritual energy and are all connected to the source of all creation. As Dr. Wayne Dryer insists “without ego I am god”. When we choose to tap into the source energy we carry with positive intentions life blossoms and we begin to attract into our experience more of what we deserve. Life is meant to be joyful and filled with abundance. But to achieve this level of creation you must shed the past like a snakeskin. This series of meditations is designed to take you step by step through a mental and spiritual transformation. You will be guided through the process of focusing on the positive and releasing the negative emotions that hold you apart from your full potential. Congratulations on taking the first step in This joyous co-creative experience!
If we peel away all the mysticism, pomp and circumstance of mediation and cut to the core of what matters, it is all about finding peace within yourself. The easiest way to quiet your mind is found in the flow of your breath. It seems so simple, so why do people struggle, fail, and give up on their journey to practice meditation? Maybe it is because we must face ourselves. Maybe it is too hard to sit still in this fast pace world we have been born into and raised to feel less than if we are not actively doing something. Maybe we get bored and cannot help but think of our long list of to-dos and cannot bear the thought of not making progress. Whatever the reasons you may come up with during this adventure, please promise yourself that you will not give up. Make a commitment to honor yourself with the fact that you deserve a five- or ten-minute break once a day to do something that will enrich your life and uplift your spirit. You are worth much more than just those few precious minutes, so follow through with this challenge and discover your inner strength, beauty, patience and so much more.
The breath is all important in yoga asana practices. Syncing the breath with movement is a miraculous feeling as the body cleanses and detoxifies physically and energetically. Much is the same for the meditations we will undertake in the next 30 days. The practice of following your breath with your mind will allow you to quiet the barrage of thoughts you cannot help but think at all times. University of Southern California has a Laboratory of Neuro Imaging, which is attributed with the fact that the average person has about 48.6 thoughts per minute, and that adds up to a total of 70,000 thoughts per day! I am not saying you should expect to go blank and reach nirvana any time soon, but wouldn’t it be empowering to feel in control of your thoughts?
The first simple breath technique you can master is ujjayi breathing. If you already practice yoga you probably know about this style of controlled breathing. Known as the victorious breath or to others at the oceanic breath, the steady and even paced inhale exhale rhythm will get you into the mood for a great meditation. One important prerequisite is that you can breathe through your nose. If you have a head cold or other ailment that prevents this then do the best you can through the mouth. You begin, moth closed and take a slow full inhale. When you feel the urge to exhale gently press the very back of your tongue into your throat to close off the airway just enough to hear yourself as you breathe out. The key is not using your vocal cords, we are not humming or moaning – just let the air do the talking. If you begin to sound like the waves crashing on the beach you know you are doing it right.
You can practice this technique throughout the day when you catch yourself feeling negative emotions. Use it to calm yourself when situations trigger the uneasy sensations in your gut. You know that nagging sense of discomfort you feel when something starts to anger you or bring about sadness. It is a perfect moment to hit the pause button, take a few breaths and reflect on the moment before your emotions spin the wheels of actions you cannot take back. This is great for parents and situations at work where a split second of calm can transform an outcome into one of kindness and progress.
There are variations which can be added to the ujjayi breath depending on what result you are seeking. You can slow your breath down by first counting your inhales and exhales and trying to equal them out. Once you have them evenly paced you can start increasing them by one second at a time. Stop once you get to points of discomfort or a feeling of fullness. You can always drop it down by a second and try to maintain that new count. There is also breath holding which many claim reduces anxiety and offers an express lane to sleep town. This involves inhaling for an average of four seconds, holding the breath for seven and then exhaling for eight seconds. This is a fun one to practice to see how you do at holding your breath. I was once a scuba instructor and could free dive, holding my breath for extended periods to impress the folks I would take out on snorkel tours. I’d swim down almost 20 feet looking for urchins and other critters I could bring up to show off. I was in the best shape of my life, slept like a baby and had no anxiety problems. Becoming a master of your breath will open up a whole new level of connection to your body that leads to other wonders of the mind.
One last breath technique we will discuss that I greatly enjoy is known as Lion’s Breath. This is superb at fostering a sense of release and we will use it frequently throughout our time together. It is simple to do and a fun one to share if you have children in your life. You begin with a deep inhale through the nose, then slightly lift the chin while exhaling though an open mouth. But not just any open mouth, you open wide and stick out your tongue like you’re Gene Simmons from KISS. If you are not old or well educated enough in 70s rock music to know who that is, you are missing out. Google that shit! So, stick out your tongue as far as you can and look as silly as you want. Again, this is about release and you cannot let go if you are busy feeling self-conscious. Just do it!
To recap, we have discussed our go-to breathe techniques of ujjayi and the loins breath. I will call upon you to use these faithfully throughout our practice. This is the foundation we will build upon to foster the deeper release and transformation of the mind. I will lead you in each meditation and these breath patterns are key to calming your nervous system so you can absorb the information we will be generating from your feelings and thoughts. We will sow new messages into your subconscious that will grow into the fruits of a truly unfu*ked life!
DAY 1 – INTENTION
So here we are. Your first day of 30 on a path to the unfuked mind you deserve. We begin with one of the strongest word in a meditative practice – Intention… it is a word that gets thrown around a lot in this new age. If you’ve ever been to a yoga class many of them begin by asking you to set an intention for your practice. Same goes for nearly all the meditation sessions in which I have participated. That is why we are starting here at the core of what this practice is all about. Ahimsa is the sanskrit word for intention and it is translated as
Our intention sets the tone for everything we do. Whether we are moving forward into our deepest desires or feeling stuck in the mire of our indecision, it is our intention that is the key to action or stagnation.
The mental state that you create surrounding your goals, aims, aspirations, dreams and wishes yet to be fulfilled all leads back to the root word -intention. It is in setting our intentions that we create the drive towards achieving our next great accomplishment. Each of us is the creator of our own life story, the choices we make on a daily basis lead us forward into life and the unfolding is truly ours to guide. Are you traveling life path with a map or stumbling blindly through the chaos lacking intention?
Close your eyes and begin to focus on your breath, breathe naturally and just follow it as it flows in and out. Start to take notice of all the sensations your body is putting out and your brain is taking in… what parts of your body are calling out to be noticed? Take a minute to really feel… Now with a focus on slowing the breath down, gently exhale and breathe in through the nose. Here we will begin to practice our ujjayi breathing. So as you exhale gently press the very back of your tongue up and towards the back of the throat. Try to mimic the muffled Roar of the ocean waves. Now as you inhale through the nose allow your belly to expand, your chest to lift and your shoulders to drop back. As you exhale feel the belly drop, the chest shrink and again the gentle rush of air passing through the back of your throat creates that subtle roar. Continue with this breath as we proceed through the meditation.
If you’re in a comfortable area where you can lay down to the further enhance your focus and relaxation do so now. I’m not going to ask you to blindly set an intention for this practice.
Rather, it is now that you do the work and search yourself to find what it is that you want from this life. If you were told you only had 5 months to live you would probably make a list of all the things you never did and then frantically attempt to squeeze in as much joy as you could in that short time. But what if you were told you only had 5 weeks to live? I’m sure the list would be drastically re-evaluated cutting it down even further. Now what if you were told you had 5 days to Live? Who would you want to see, where would you want to go? What if it was your final 5 hours? Really think about that I’m sure you wouldn’t be worrying about the paperwork you didn’t complete at the office or the dishes you left in the sink from the night before or how your car really needs to be vacuumed or the million other trifling things that we spend time worrying about throughout each day… Now put yourself with those beloved people in that special place…. there lies your heart and soul. Those people that you would choose to spend your last hours are your core your purpose. That is a valuable piece of information to reflect on and hold dear as you set intentions for all that you do in your life. Keeping what truly value in mind as you set your intentions to engage in anything is the best way to ensure you stay connected to yourself.
We have been programmed since childhood to fit in, to comply, to go with the flow and to live up to standards that we did not set and to which we should not always subscribe. Though it sounds cliche, you must truly get to know yourself. Shed the layers of society’s conditioning so that you can emerge as the powerful, creative being you were when you first came to this planet. We are all born Fearless curious and truly Limitless. however, over time and with repeated conditioning by the events and consequences we are surrounded with as children, young adults and even into adulthood; our powers are Stripped Away. Now you can reverse this, take back your power and get in touch with the amazing energy of creation that is flowing through you and to you at all times.
Check back in with your breath…. is it slow and relaxed or shallow. I want you to take a few breaths to help shed a little bit of the past. First, think back the moment when someone stole some of your magic, told you not to do something or told you you couldn’t do something. Sometime in your life when you felt that sensation of being robbed of your creativity, your wonder, your ability to think and do what came naturally to you. Maybe it was a parent or relative, school teacher, a supervisor of some kind. It can be anyone at any stage in your life when someone tried to take your creative power and turn it down a notch. Now frame that moment in your mind like a photograph and get ready to break the glass with a hammer. We are going to release, it reverse it and undo it. Get ready for Lions breath. Remember this is the smooth inhale through the nose and powerful exhale extending the tongue as far as you can down towards your chin opening the mouth wide and saying aaahh. Preparing tor release that joy killing moment. Look that person in the eye and tell them NO, I will not be less than my glorious self for you.
Let’s take a deep inhale through the nose completely filling your lungs pressing your belly out as far as you can and with the intention of release and repair exhale loudly aaaahhh. Let’s do that two more times again with a deep inhale through the nose allowing the belly to extend and the chest to expand then release that past memory with a sharp quick exhale with a loud aaahh. Last time deep inhale filling yourself with that Holy light of the power of the universe, exhale out through the mouth Lion’s breath tongue out Aaaahhh.
Let your breathing naturally return to its normal pace look at your fingers and your toes roll your wrists in your ankles and stretch out as if you’re just waking up from the best sleep you’ve ever had.
We will continue to release and repair the damage done to us in our past throughout these sessions, rebuilding our strength, our power and energy by tapping in to our true selves and releasing what does not serve us.
So to close this time together today, here is a quote that always makes me laugh. The road to hell is paved with good Intentions. That seems like such a negative way to look at it, but it also makes me think that we much take action and not sit back admiring our goals with good intentions if we are ever to achieve our hearts desires.
I will leave you with an affirmation for today. I AM physically, mentally and emotionally ready to begin a new phase in my life.
I highly recommend that you get a journal if you haven’t already started one and add this to the top of today’s page may be right at several times if you’re having a difficult time believing it definitely read it and repeat it to yourself throughout the day maybe every time you stopped to have a meal and once more before you go to bed.
I wish you the best until we meet again.
DAY 2 – GRATITUDE
Gratitude it is a word that gets thrown around a lot and I’m sure sometimes it causes a cringing reaction but it truly is one of the most important feelings that you need to develop in order to have a better life developing the mindset of feeling grateful as often as you can can completely change your outlook and how you manage your stress it is so wonderful to have the strength to let uncomfortable moments of Trials and discouragement passed by leaving you unfazed because you remain grateful for all that you have and all that you know is coming your way sometimes it is as simple as sitting down and counting your blessings I play a game with my child at the dinner table when conversations turn into party words or the siblings are fighting with one another I asked them to take turns telling me what they’re grateful for this instantly shift the vibe of the room and allows the kids to get their mind off whatever simple bickerings they were engaged in I have changed my life dramatically and a tribute much of it to my positive attitude which is derived from my overflowing sense of gratitude I am constantly finding ways to appreciate the circumstances within my life and turn negatives into opportunity there is always something to be learned from anything that we go through in life and it is not always easy but tremendously beneficial when we can turn tragedy into preparation for future games there is no reason to find sadness when we are struggling if we can tap into what we are grateful for and lift our spirit
Gratitude can be found everywhere you can be thankful for anything at anytime of day there is no limit to the amount of gratitude you can feel and there should be no reason to want to limit your gratitude let it overflow into the lives of others around you encourage people to see the bright side of their woes I had some coworkers who were always bringing me sad news whether it be politics or worries over the pandemic or trouble with their significant others and rather than feed into it I tried to encourage them to look to the lighter side of the situation and find reasons to be grateful despite what was troubling them now most people are not initially receptive to this because they want you to wallow in their misery along side of them and if you allow that into your life you will attract more of it and thereby whole in new struggles would you would be better off without it is so important to preserve your bubble of positivity and keep your gratitude flowing regardless of what others around you may say or do do not allow people to rain on your parade or diminish your powers of manifestation that come from your strong sense of gratitude as it is developed during my family party honoring myself and my new husband all my family members took a turn speaking and one of the most common things that was heard was there amazement at my persistent positivity as I have and will stay many times it was a conscious decision that I made around the age of 18 choose happiness over grief to choose positivity over sadness and to banish the feelings of Sorrow anger or misery that I might otherwise have held on to I made that choice and I held my ground I had dedicated myself 2 give myself the space to feel negative emotions but I put a limit in my mind a mathematical 5% of my day would be the maximum allowable time that I would spend on any sadness anger fear or other negative emotion I promised myself the rest of my time would be spent with joy love and light in my life why would we want anything else why would we want to allow negative emotions to fill our days hours it is so truly unfair 2 bring and perpetuate negativity into your life when you have the choice to banish it the law of attention is always an effect whatever you think about you will bring about when you catch yourself feeling negative emotions you must pause take a deep breath and release them find something that will make you smile a favorite memory a song a dear friend and use that as your replacement thought since your mind can only hold onto one conscious thought at a time use that law to remove negative thoughts and emotions think now to what you can use at the trying to disrupt your day
Complete a simple exercise of creating your gratitude list write down as many things as you can think of that you can be truly grateful for you’re living circumstances the people in your life the food you get to eat the Furnishings in your home the jewelry you wear the relationships that you have that make you happy complete the things list and then reflect on the why why did you choose what you wrote think about each one and tell yourself why it makes you grateful
DAY 3 – INTEGRITY
Integrity is a value and it is one that almost every business chooses put at the top of their priorities Integrity is the ability to do what you say and say what you mean and mean what you say the reason why I want us to talk about integrity is that it is another word for staying true to yourself is so important that we work towards finding the harmony within ourselves of who we really are what we really want so that we can live our best life
If you don’t have your integrity you really don’t have much going for yourself you have to be able to trust yourself others need to be able to trust you if you are going to form meaningful relationships without Integrity none of this is possible Integrity is your key to Quality with in your life it is so critical and that’s something that should become one of your core values it is so easy to get wrapped up in wanting to please other people impress other people or just simply do things that do not hold true to your sincere nature that you can lose your integrity without even knowing it a key to developing strong sense of integrity is that you must search your feelings when making decisions your gut feelings are alive wire to your soul if you are not feeling good about a decision that you are making it is a clear sign that you are making the wrong decision then why is it so many of us will push through these horrible feelings and commit to things that we feel are wrong it is ridiculous that would jeopardize our integrity and truly our sense of well-being and ignore uncomfortable feelings that are trying to warn us as we move forward in directions that did not align with our true selves
I’m sure there’s a time in your life that you can think back to in which you moved forward with a decision that felt wrong to you in your gut and later came back to haunt you we’ve all been there we’ve all had regrets and it is those moments that could be turning points in our life if we were strong enough to stand up to those whoever they may be that try to pressure us into making decisions are commitments that make us feel wrong at the time it is happening cannot stress this enough that you must become your biggest Advocate if you don’t stand up for yourself it is rare that anyone else will it is crucial that you take the time to believe in yourself and your feelings and realized what a key indicator they play and tapping in to the source within you that can guide you to a better and more fulfilling life the higher power that you are connected to transforms itself through your feelings to guide you and to ignore it is truly sacrilegious
You can also think of the times in your life when you have had those amazing feelings the Goosebump feelings the whole body electric amazing feelings of which you had while making decisions that you knew we’re going to lead you down the path to success how often is it that you’ve had those amazing feelings and then Ben later disappointed with the results of following through on whatever it was that you were thinking of at the time I cannot think back to one time in my life where I ever felt amazing made a decision or commitment and then later regretted it but I can think of countless times where I had that deep gut wrenching sick to my stomach this is the wrong decision feeling and sure enough lived to regret it it is so critical that we heed those warnings and get in the habit of listening to our feelings to be our guide there is nothing better you can do for yourself than to put yourself and your integrity at the top of your list of values and use that as The Benchmark for which all decisions are made
We’re going to close this session with a prompt for you to journal your top values. Just let things that you value flow onto your paper your family your money your security your friends your stuff and then think a little deeper your relationships your bonds with your loved ones your health your free time your favorite hobbies whatever it may be that comes to mind let it all flow out on the paper and then go through and prioritize Circle your top five Ben from their prioritize again and see if Integrity has landed anywhere in your values if not at the top a value is not something you just believe in it is something you practice it is something immovable you do not believe in it and operate through it when it is convenient but rather at all times so be sure that you use that gauge when you are measuring your values take those values after you have organized them right them on a post it and keep it somewhere you’ll see it daily as a constant reminder of what you choose to hold dear in your life and how you can allow your decisions you make to honor those values and promote them on a daily basis
DAY 4 – REGRET
Well this is always an easy session to write about as my life has quite a few regrets I’ve done some crazy things I’ve burned some quality people made a heck of a lot of bad choices however I have learned to transform my regrets into lessons that have allowed me to improve my life and the choices I make today regret is that feeling when you look back and wish things have been different and wish you had made better choices but alas here we are living the life that we have orchestrated up to this point it is crucial that we take responsibility for every single one of our decisions all of our actions words and deeds must be ours you must own your mistakes all the moves You’ve Made For Better or Worse in order to truly be free and move forward with any hope of having a quality life as I said regret does not have to be permanent it is very possible 2 learn from your mistakes and transform regret into a higher knowledge
There are even ways to remedy regret you can take direct action such as confronting folks that you feel you have wronged with sincere apologies we can take in direct action and write out our regrets burn them and set them free but the worst thing you can do is to hold them dear and reminisce Time After Time deepening the pain further impressing the hurtful memories and ingraining failures or other negatives into your subconscious you must release regret there is no other cure for the feelings that are associated with it
How do we live without regret well it might be as simple as just taking the time to compare your values into every decision you make there is no reason to live with regret how do we live without regret well it might be as simple as just taking the time to compare your values into every decision you make there is no reason to live with regret there is no reason to make spontaneous decisions or commitments that feel wrong to you starting today make a commitment to yourself to pause and Ponder the ramifications of decisions you are about to make starting today make a commitment to yourself to pause and Ponder the ramifications of decisions you are about to make there is no one holding a gun to your head requiring rapid fire answers to any action you need to take so search your values and compare them with your feelings and be sure that when you commit to something it feels right and if it doesn’t have the courage to stand up for yourself and make a different decision do not be pressured by anyone for any reason to move forward through life doing things that do not serve you and do not sit well with you and that is the only way you can live without regret
Tensions rise quickly when people are under stress. I want you to think of a time when you allowed your emotions to override your better judgement. Pick one incident that still brings sorrow or shame to you when recall how you acted. We all have regrets, lets release this so we can achieve a greater sense of peace and heal ourselves. Put yourself Imagine how things could have been different if you had been able to calm yourself put yourself back in that situation mentally and live through it again with a different outcome see yourself taking a deep breath In the Heat of your anger see yourself releasing the anger with the breath allow yourself to rework the situation with a calm result ending in no confrontation
For today’s Journal I want you to think of your biggest regret whatever it may be go write it all out that I want you to write how you would have done things differently on a different sheet of paper then I want you to take the regret the actual account that you wrote out safely burn that sucker down release date and tell yourself that in the future you will stay true to yourself and make decisions that align with your desires and values but you will heed those feelings in your gut and you will consult with your true self that you will connect with that greater power inside of you regarding all decisions and commitments that you enter into
I am aligned with my true self to make confident decisions that reflect my values
DAY 5 – RESPONSIBILITY
It is so easy to want to blame others for things that happen in your life however there is no way to be successful to feel free and to actually bring good things to you if that is your default setting you must take responsibility 100% for everything you have done in your life up to this point again putting the blame on others will not work you have to realize that it is your choice to tolerate poor behavior from others it is your choice As you move through all the different things that happened to you in a day of how you react it is always your choice by fostering an attitude of taking responsibility for yourself every deed word action. Only then can you move forward and start to manifest an amazingly wonderful life that is truly in alignment with your goals and desires
By taking responsibility of your thoughts you can change what happens in your life your thoughts are the key to all that unfolds in your future when you make plans you begin the subconscious motion of attracting the things into your life that you want however sitting around thinking thoughts about what could go wrong what’s already gone wrong things you dislike all of that adds up like a magnet for negative experiences and you will truly continue to get more of what you don’t want coming to you in every shape and form it is crucial 2 learn to control your thoughts you must change your thought patterns if you are a negative person that stereotype alone is developed by others perception of what you speak about and how you relate to them you must learn to control yourself and take responsibility for every thought and word that passes through you
Some people say that you cannot hold a conscious thought in your mind at the same time so whatever you are thinking is going to be your predominant focus and energy therefore if you are thinking a negative thought you must find a way to change it and the easiest way to change is find a replacement when you first start this process it is best to identify a extremely positive thought or memory one that you can recall vividly one that makes you smile instantly something so wonderful that your whole body feels it when you think about it by using that method you can change the vibrations that you are admitting and pull yourself out of the negative and into the positive
Overtime as you become more skilled and thought replacement you can start to look at troubling situations in a whole new way looking for the lessons that they offer or looking for the silver lining in the clouds there is no reason to feel negative there is absolutely no reason to perpetuate negative thoughts it is imperative that you learn to look on the bright side and cultivate positivity at every turn and any challenge
Making it your Sovereign duty to be responsible for your thoughts and feelings is the best thing you can do for yourself no one else can think your thoughts for you no one else makes the actions you take for you and steps to becoming truly independent successful and happy you must realize the power of taking responsibility for everything you say and do your Journal exercise today is to think back to situations where you have experienced negative consequences negative emotions and take full responsibility ask yourself how was this my doing whether or not you feel people wronged you whether or not you feel people are out to get you or if you have other excuses you have been making for those situations flip it around and take a cold hard look at yourself accept responsibility for trusting the wrong people 4 whatever it might be and allow yourself to build a weight and clarity of this action
I am responsible for my thoughts and use them to align with my higher self
DAY 6 – CALM
Our word today is calm, so when you start your exhale think of the word calm. Allow your mind to wander to all the versions of what calm means to you. Maybe it’s a calm blue ocean under a sky of puffy clouds. Or do you see a pristine lake mirroring the sun as it rises through the nearby forest. Maybe it is the feeling you get as you lied snuggled in your bed of freshly washed sheets. Calm can mean many things to us and comes in many forms. So let your mind find the calm that best suits you.
Let’s take a greater focus on your breath as you inhale feel the sensation every muscle, every molecule – feel things moving feel your chest stretching your skin. Notice the sensation of your breath as it flows out from inside of you. Take notice of the sensations throughout your body – what are you feeling? Are there areas of tightness? Do they speak to you as you inhale or as you exhale? With each breath try to focus on any areas that are causing you tension or discomfort as if you had a mental freeze ray gun. Exhale as you fire the gun into the tension, freeze it solid. Now on your inhale breathe into them and feel expansion imagine cracks splitting the frozen tension and again exhale as you see this frozen mass vibrate and rattle. The cracks deepen as you inhale again. Pieces start to bust loose and float away from you as if you were in zero gravity. As you breathe out see the tension leaving your body piece by frosty piece.
Allow the sensation of calm to overwhelm you, let it surround you and caress you from head to toe. With each breath allow the calm to move your skin down to your bones. Use your freeze ray to scan your body, searching for other areas to be treated. Welcome the release to penetrate even further.
In today’s hectic World there are many times when we could use the ability to find instant calm.
Think of a situation in which you felt completely calm. Where were you? What were you doing? What did you see around you? Are there any specific scents or smells associated with this moment? What does your body feel like, the clothes on your skin, what else is your body touching?
DAY 7 – FORGIVENESS
So what kind of person are you forgive and forget or hold a grudge forever there are many reasons why people feel it necessary to hold the Relentless Grudge however I can tell you with first-hand experience you are only hurting yourself most people that have wronged you move on and don’t think twice about it so truly pulling that negative energy around with you like an anchor is only to your detriment it is so much better for your spirit to release feelings of anger and negativity towards others understanding that people can only do the best they can come in from the level of Consciousness where they’re at
I have also enjoyed the experience of battling folks who had something against me with unrelenting kindness and call Manas only to enjoy the explosion of frustration and anger which this induced in the other person turning people into raving lunatics when they were unable to anger or excite me so remember that it is to your betterment to develop a sense of calm and logical thought processes when it comes to feeling anger or hatred towards others least you turn into the raving lunatic in public and embarrass yourself
Sometimes we’ve carried around this awful baggage for so long it seems impossible to get rid of it maybe you feel it in your body when you think about it I know I have frequently felt mine in my chest when I revisit episodes of time in which folks have done me wrong so to this we will put forth are skills of release by documenting are anger on paper and then setting it Ablaze to release it out into the universe to be absorbed sometimes you may have to repeat this process more than once for the same offender but it is absolutely a worthwhile exercise in order to release these negative emotions which invariably will cause you disease or other harm
So for today’s Journal session I want you to pick your biggest Vendetta you’re most aggravating experience and document it fully. Get it all out of your head and then burn it. Repeat this for any other past experiences you want to let go of. And if you feel yourself feeling unsatisfied repeat the process as many times as necessary until you feel that it has been purged from your body and your subconscious you can also write letters of forgiveness in place of the original letters documenting The Experience itself but start with the experience and then if you need to move on to forgiveness for yourself and for the offending party
DAY 8 – CONNECTION
Connection what an important topic that we need right now as our world is forced to isolate loved ones from one another. Connection can be found in so many forms, none more pure than looking into another soul’s eyes to see their feelings shine through.
Taking the time to develop connection with those whom we care for is a worthwhile venture. It’s good for us, it’s good for them. Building our connection with our family and friends is a critical path to a happy and successful life, absent of deathbed regrets. I think there is no greater joy than feeling truly connected to someone. I know that I’ve had moments in my close relationships that have truly inspired me, thanks to the feelings of connection I have with the other person. No more so then with my one and only son.
I immediately felt connected to him as he grew in my womb. I cried tears of joy throughout my pregnancy as his life developed within me. I had many epiphanies as to the meaning of life thanks to that process. From the moment I was able to hold him in my arms, I have never felt more connected to another person. He is my greatest joy and has helped me become much more than I ever thought possible. For it was he who inspired me to leave a disruptive and negative relationship. We moved 2500 miles away from everyone I had ever known and started my life over. We did this with almost no resources and just the belief that the Aloha spirit would infuse itself into our lives and give us a future that we would make him proud of my choice.
So far, everything that has happened from that move has shown me it was the right thing to do. I made a series of connections that launched our new life and my dear friends we left behind continued to support us. Connecting is truly an epic way to breathe new life into yourself. However, connection is important for more than just what it benefits you. To listen without waiting for your turn to speak is a great gift to others. The more you give to others the more you will love yourself.
One of the best things we can do outside of ourselves is to transcend to the level of truly caring for others. It does not always have to be another person, as any pet owner will tell you! You can absolutely have a loving and profound connection with any living creature. I think the most important thing that this word can give us is a sense of purpose. We are all connected, we are all part of this planet, this spaceship that we ride through the cosmos. If only all of us could adopt that attitude, then think of the amazing things we could create. Imagine if we were not spending our time fighting one another over the superficial differences, over in line in the sand or our appearances. We must push for this level of collective consciousness and connection to elevate the human race to its full potential.
One important idea that accompanies connection is taking the time 2 give feedback. Feedback is how we all improve. However, practice as E. Scott Geller says, practice does not make perfect unless there’s quality feedback. Feedback with which to improve our behavior is a real gem and should be accepted with gratitude. So next time someone is talking to you take the time to listen and to connect, and unless you can offer valuable feedback that would improve their situation hold back any gossip or comments and just let them know that you hear them. Let them know that you feel a fraction of what they are going through and that you are there for them in whatever way will serve them best. True connection is beautiful.
I am connected to my fellow man and to myself and with this connection I bring great things to life
FEAR
EMPOWER YOUR SELF: Do not indoctrinate yourself with fears of death and condemnation. WE all live forever, THIS is the physical, tangible heaven everyone is looking for, this physical experience. We return to our energy-based spirit when we leave this “life”/experience. There is judgment, but “research” and near death, back from “death” survivor accounts suggest it is only of our own actions by ourselves. PRAISE LOVE, SPREAD KINDNESS, SEEK YOUR PASSION – SAY NO TO FEAR
DAY 9 – CONNECTION
When it comes to getting what we want we all have to start somewhere that is our desire you have to be able to pinpoint your burning Hearts Desire if you are going to achieve your goals it is easy enough to start by writing down a list of all the things you want without giving any chair so how you would go about receiving them do not worry about the why and the how as much as the want that will help you sift through all that there could be in your future and get the process of drawing it into your reality started
Do you plan to make something out of nothing starting with that one undeniable desire that occupies your mind the majority of your free time is the best place to go whether that be writing a book taking a course finishing a puzzle it doesn’t matter but go out and set about making it happen again we do not preoccupy ourselves with the house but rather fill our mind with nothing but the what desire can be tricky because Society has been brainwashing us from the time we were small children if you can speak back to when you were five or six years old did you have a desire of what you wanted to grow up to be and is that where you are now how far off are you think hard about this for a while if you’re having trouble recalling what your childhood desires were even if it’s not about what you wanted to be when you grew up what were the things that you wanted to do what did you enjoy most that might give you a starting ground to help you focus on your life goal that you may want to bring forth from your desire
Once you have a laser beam like Focus on a desire then you can start to formulate plans and brainstorm ideas on how you may bring it into your reality but without that Clear Vision of what it is you actually want all the planning and effort is meaningless someone said if you don’t know where you’re going any road can take you how true that can be
When thinking of your desires it is also important to TuneIn to the feelings running through your body especially your gut for your heart when you think about something and it makes you feel electric or weightless you know you’re onto something now of course there’s lots of things that we need to do just to get along on our day-to-day lives and it is best to turn those desires into intentions that have a positive and uplifting Bible maybe you have to clean the garage or wash your car raise it to yourself that this weekend I intend to enjoy creating space for myself in my garage or I intend to take pride in my vehicle by giving it a wash there’s always a way to turn any situation into one that has a positive outlook perspective is everything and when you put a positive vibe into your perspective you are raising your vibration
What’s the purpose of raising your vibration while if you want to achieve any level of greatness you need to start there you cannot create wonderful things from a vibration of lack or despair you must get on the same frequency with the things that you wish to attract in your life that is why if you want to be successful you should gather mentors into your circle who will help lift you up that is why people get coaches when they want to be amazing athletes there is nothing better than learning from experience it allows you to avoid common mistakes and gain insights that only time can impart
A great way to make your list of Dreams desires wishes goals is to start a chain of positive thoughts about all the things you already have whatever you can be grateful for in your life start writing that down first be grateful for your house be grateful for your job be grateful for your family anything that you can possibly touch on stop others would be joyous to have in their lives to the simplest things working your way upward to the more extravagant items or opportunities you may have in your life it’s all worth noting as you build the momentum of gratitude and then make the shift to documenting your desires
The key is to find that desire that truly resonates with you mentally and physically tapping in to the things that make you feel alive that is when you know you have found a desire worth pursuing. If you’re at a turning point in your life where you want to make a major change delving deep into the work of desires is the best place to start. I could be a change in your relationships in your career path or just how you live your life whatever it might be taking time for self-reflection and really getting into your heart and sensing what drives you to feel the best is a practical way to tune in to your true desires.
When I was a little girl and read Island of the Blue Dolphins a story about a young girl who was left on a small island offshore on the coast of California when her native people were taken away on a hunter’s vessel I was enamored with the idea of Island life I thought about it all the time and As I Grew Older that imprint in my subconscious remained when it came time for me to choose a country for my travel abroad program in college I picked the islands of New Zealand not only because I had family there but because I thought I would be living my dream of exploring the Pacific when I finished my school and it was time to return to California with my New Zealand husband we swiftly made it to Catalina Island upon which I resided for 20 years and after three failed relationships all with their own abusive Shadows I made the brave and courageous jump to move to Oahu the most populated of the Hawaiian Islands start my life over during the first Thanksgiving I spent their my best friend came to visit and she took us out on a trip to the Kaneohe Sandbar hours while there the tour guide pointed over to a small island and told us that it was Gilligan’s Island from the TV show my whole body lit up I was overwhelmed with a sense of accomplishment as a child I used to watch Gilligan’s Island and wish so desperately that I could be there I turned to my friend and told her I have finally achieved my childhood dream I now live next to Gilligan’s Island as simple as this may seem it truly was another turning point in my amazing journey of manifestation it was a little sign to let me know that I had made the right choice to take a leap of faith and move 2500 miles away from my friends and family but within two months I met the man of my dreams and now have all I could ever ask for in terms of love and family
For your Journal work I’d like you to begin by writing a list of all you are grateful for and then once you are on a roll of at least 10 or 20 items switch to opening yourself to your desires let them flow through you to the paper without too much thought think of things that you would like to do in the short-term if you only had Days to Live or years or decades and see what comes forth
I am allowing my desires to flow To Me with the intention of allowing them to manifest without restrictions are barriers
DAY 10 – COURAGE
Courage is a word I never thought about as a child or young adult maybe it was because I was already full of it I didn’t hesitate to do pretty much anything that I was interested in trying for doing but I know that courage it’s not something that everybody develops as they grow and from all of my research this is definitely a childhood issue. If you are raised with loving parents that do nothing but support you and encourage you it’s easy to have plenty of Courage you’ve got cheerleaders on the sidelines telling you you can do it try and see what happens I believe in you all of these things help bolster a strong sense of Courage and yet there are other Unfortunate Souls for raised with very abusive parents who are quite negative continuously cautioning and reminding children of their limits which does them no service in developing a strong sense of self or courage
The good news is this can be changed I would recommend starting off small when you feel that nagging sense of I can’t or I shouldn’t evaluate what it is you are negotiating in your mind and ask yourself what if I do what is the loss if I try and fail what’s the worst thing that could happen and if you’re not going to end up injured or in some much worse condition than you presently are consider giving whatever you’re afraid of a try one easy area to begin is with trying new foods so long as you’re not allergic trying a new food that you may or may not like isn’t really going to harm you standing up for yourself is another great place to start being honest while this may be super challenging is one of the easiest places to have courage speaking the truth that is on your mind to others is one of the greatest gifts you can ever give yourself when you feel yourself backtracking or editing your thoughts before you speak in order to not offend someone by not giving them what they want that is the time to catch yourself take a deep breath and evaluate the situation there is a time 4 being agreeable and there is a time 2 stand up for yourself if it’s about to impact your life and happiness
There are certain things that happened to us would take a lot of Courage either to put behind us or take the steps to free ourselves from one example is abusive relationships whatever form the abuse may come in verbal physical mental it is so difficult when you feel trapped to take that all important first step of finding a way out is even more difficult in the society for women because when you request help from authorities you have to be physically beaten before they will extend any type of services I personally was in an abusive relationship that was exacerbated by alcoholism the abuse was never physical to me but the mental torture and the occasional thrashing of belongings within our house really started to weigh down my soul and when I realized how much it was impacting our child I tried to leave unsuccessfully several times I was locked down by fear and fear is the Ultimate Enemy of your soul I had friends willing to offer me shelter to escape but I was threatened buy a possible reality of losing my child should I leave are home and not have a way to support him at the time I did not have a job and I was threatened by my partner that he would do everything in his power and that his family would support him to and sure he was able to keep our son unfortunately I believed him foolishly I should say but two more years passed and I finally got the courage to escape and although it was a challenge to have things work out in my favor I did succeed in keeping my son
Whether it’s trying something new changing careers leaving a bad relationship it doesn’t matter what your challenges are you can develop the courage to make tough choices in your life and therefore carve your own path to success and happiness one of my greatest joys is watching my goals manifest into reality and without the courage to dare to dream none of that would ever be possible you should have already written a list of dreams and goals from previous exercises now I urge you to go back and review them and pick one that you feel you’re ready to have the courage to explore.
courage doesn’t equal careless…
I am fueled by courage and have the power to achieve my dreams
DAY 26 – PROSPERITY
What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word prosperity is it well s in the form of riches and material things or is it that feeling when you have things in your life that are going your way so much so that you feel like nothing can stop you regardless of the amount in your bank account Prosperity can mean different things to different people but what I’d like to focus on during this section is the feeling of prosperity regardless of where you’re at in your life not everyone who has tons of money in the bank feels great about themselves and people who live modestly can enjoy the feeling of wealth it is just a matter of perspective
The key to finding prosperity in your life is the feeling the feeling of success and whatever that means to you if you want money in the bank imagine that it’s their imagine spending it imagine all the wonderful things that you would do with it if you want a title in the job that you choose imagine that and all that goes with it if you want a family and children that make you proud live that out in your mind it is so important that we put ourselves in the place mentally where we want to be in the future so that are higher self can go to work bringing it into our experience
I have ridden the roller coaster of financial woes and riches so many times I am almost numb to the sensation I have enjoyed Living Like a Rockstar and also experienced being virtually homeless so I can identify with the scope of feelings that come with these different lifestyles but what I never lost sight of during whatever phase of my life I was in where my goals it truly distinguishes folks from just floating down the River of Life to grabbing that or and guiding your ship without the ability to steer you cannot change course tow writing your goals down is the first step to grabbing hold of your rudder.
Ture Prosperity will take vision, dedication and knowledge. Strive to be the best in our industry, research everything you can and find mentorship from those doing what you want to do….
for today’s session and your Journal I want you to write down your goals no matter how ridiculous they may seem what would you want to do if you didn’t have to care about how it was achieved don’t worry about the how just write down the what the universe can take care of the house for you but if you don’t know the what it has no idea what to focus on for you and how to bring it into your experience so be sure to get clear precise be descriptive and empty your heart’s desires into your Journal today.